I found an article online titled, Bouncers Aren't Always Right.
It's an interesting read, but also a common argument from people who have never worked in a bar. It's those same people who come into a bar and won't see it from our point of view even though we've seen it from their point of view as a customer.
I can respond to that article with two words:
You don't like how you were treated in a bar by an employee? Go somewhere else. You were rejected at the door because you'd had too much to drink, even though you think that you haven't? Tough. Go somewhere else. You get thrown out because you happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time? Tough. We're right and you're wrong. Every time. We're right because we make the rules and you're wrong because you broke 'em.
I've got news for you. Bars aren't fair. Nowhere did it say when you entered that we were obligated to let you stay. We make the rules in the bar, and if you don't agree with it, go somewhere else. Bars are not democracy's. They're dictatorships. The doorman and bartender are the dictator and whatever they say goes.
I know it sounds like macho bullshit, but thats just the way it is. To take another approach to the situation would result in the customers running the show, and that doesn't fly. Drunk people will take advantage of you every chance they get, and we're here to make sure that doesn't happen.
There's no guarantee that your night won't be "ruined" because of a bouncer or because you happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time, but thats the risk that you run when you come out drinking. That's just the reality.
If the worst thing that happens to you is you get booted out of a bar for something that you feel wasn't fair, then consider yourself lucky. You didn't get beat up, arrested, robbed or drugged. As long as you make it home safe, then I'd just be thankful for that.
And in case you've already forgetten...we're always right and you're always wrong.